Tips on building your child’s confidence and self-esteem
You can help confidence grow with a few simple practices:
- Encourage independence and taking reasonable risks - even if your heart is sometimes in your mouth as they do so.
- Focus on the little successes not the failures.
- Praise them for their successes - and also for trying when they don’t succeed.
- Show that you believe in them - even something as simple as the friendly wink, arm around the shoulder or tussled hair works wonders.
- Respect what’s important to them - friends, activities, new skills.
- Be an active listener - encourage them to keep talking and don’t show boredom.
- Encourage them to express their feelings - “How did it feel when you thought you would fall?” Don’t downplay or ignore their fears.
- Criticise actions, not the child - never say things such as “You’re bad!” “You worry me when you run on the road”. Instead try: “Running on the road is dangerous as a car could hit you and hurt you.”